Archive for June, 2009

A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Tuesday, June 16th, 2009

This is a portion of scripture from Ecclesiastes 4:12.  The complete verse reads, “Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”  This scripture illustrates three levels of unity and the strength offered at each level.  There is a perception that being a ”lone wolf” means you are strong.  The truth is that the “lone wolf’ is the easiest to overcome; it is the weakest.  Two together are more difficult.  They can encourage each other, hold each other accountable, and watch each other’s back.  But the hardest to overcome is three together. 

God created marriage,  and in marriage, He is the third cord.  If you build your marriage relationship on Godly principles like love, forgiveness, repentance, and so on, your marriages will be much more able to withstand the pressures that the world exerts to drive you apart.   I have noticed that as a husband and wife draw closer to God, they also draw closer to each other.  Keep God at the center of your relationship.  He knows how to make it work.

How can two walk together lest they be agreed?

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

This is Amos 3:3, and boy is it true.  Have you ever been around a couple that can’t agree on anything.  Nobody wants to be around them; it is hard to imagine they enjoy being together.   Early on in our marriage – Rebekah and I used to argue about the best toothpaste to use (believe it or not).  She like Colgate and I liked Crest.  Really and truly, there isn’t much difference between the two.  Is it worth arguing even once about something like this?  But people argue about such simple things all the time.   People don’t like to give up being right and let the other person have their way. 

Being right is highly over rated.  We need to adapt ourselves to one another.  Agreement doesn’t necessarily mean we think the other person is right; it doesn’t mean we feel like yielding what we want.  It does mean we make a decision to put the realtionship above who is right and who is wrong.  We can decide to agree even if we don’t feel like it.  THEN we can walk together.