Marriage By The Book

You need to eliminate the word divorce from your vocabulary. It should never come out of your mouth when you are speaking about possibilities for your own marriage. The possibility of divorce brings insecurity into the relationship. Insecurity is a bad foundation; you cannot build anything stable and lasting on it.

Early in our marriage, Rebekah and I used to get into BIG arguments. Often, one of us would bring up the dreaded “D” word. It was the heat of the moment, we were mad, and boom — we would drop the bomb. Sometimes we would say it just so the other person didn’t get to say it first. It was as if the first one to bring it up had the advantage.

One day, in 1992, I told Rebekah that divorce was no longer an option for us. I told her we were going to make our marriage work. Sticking to it wasn’t easy. The next time we got into an argument, Rebekah brought it up. I wanted to jump on the bandwagon and say, “OK! Let’s get a divorce.” But I didn’t. I remembered our decision and said, “No! Divorce is not an option for us. I love you, and I am committed to you, and we are going to make our marriage work.”

That scenario played out one more time. The results were dramatic. Rebekah has told the story many times since. She says that it brought tremendous security to her when I took the stand that we were going to make our marriage work and that divorce was not an option. It was a huge step forward in our relationship. We have never allowed divorce to be mentioned as a possibility for us since then.

I challenge you; eliminate the word divorce from your vocabulary. Even if your spouse brings it up, don’t you follow suit. Do what we did and say “NO” to divorce.

MATTHEW 19:6 NKJV
…So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

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