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Rihanna and Chris Brown

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

Many people are interested in this story, some for good reason since they are either in the same situation or they have a friend the situation.  I am going to make a comment, and admittedly, all I know is what the media has portrayed. 

Should Rihanna have taken Chris back? This is a common question. Well, Proverbs 14:7 says to leave the presence of a fool. In my book, someone who abuses you is a fool.

I have two daughters, one is 22 and the other is 13. I would advise them to turn loose anyone who is either physically or even verbally abusive, ESPECIALLY if you are not married to them. If not married, let go and move on; no matter what this person says, they do not truly love you — they do not have your best interests at heart. If you are married, I would recommend removing yourself (and kids) from the abuse; removing yourself from the situation does not necessarily mean divorce, but perhaps leaving the situation will give the abusive spouse the wake up call they need to make some needed changes.

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Say no to divorce

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

Hello everyone. Here’s another entry to help you have a better marriage.

You need to eliminate the word divorce from your vocabulary. It should never be considered as a possibility for your own marriage. The idea of divorce brings insecurity into a marriage, and you can’t build anything lasting on insecurity.

Many years ago, Rebekah and I used to get into BIG arguments. Many times, we would get angry and one of us would bring up divorce. Sometimes we would say it just so the other person didn’t get to say it first. It was as if the first one to bring it up had the advantage.

Then one day, along about 1992, I told Rebekah that divorce was no longer an option for us. I told her we were going to make our marriage work. She agreed, but sticking to it wasn’t easy. The next time we got into an argument, Rebekah brought it up. I was mad and wanted to jump on the bandwagon and say, “OK! Let’s get a divorce.” But I didn’t. I remembered our decision and said, “No! Divorce is not an option for us. I love you, and I am committed to you, and we are going to make our marriage work.”

This same thing happened just one more time. The results were dramatic. By saying no to divorce, we I brought tremendous security to her. It was a huge step forward in our relationship. We have never allowed divorce to be mentioned as a possibility for us since then.

I challenge you; eliminate the word divorce from your vocabulary. Even if your spouse brings it up, don’t you follow suit. Do what we did and say “NO” to divorce.

MATTHEW 19:6 NKJV
…So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

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