Choose Your Bucket

Have you ever been talking to your spouse and sparks begin to shoot?  You know what I mean – one of you says something that the other doesn’t like, and anger begins to rise.  In these situations, what you say next will usually determine whether the anger is calmed, or Read more…



Expectations

Expectations When people get married, they have certain expectations.  Usually they expect the person they are marrying to meet their needs and make them happy. They expect such things as companionship, love, security, sex, someone to make the money (or help Read more…



The Big Lie

Have You Heard This One? Rebekah and I had horrible problems during our first couple of years of marriage.  Did I look for help?  No. I was afraid to tell anyone or confide anything to anyone, even to friends, because I thought I was the only person in the world dealing with these kinds of relationship problems.  I was afraid that if I said Read more…



Being Right is Highly Overrated

Being right is highly overrated.  The relationship is more important than who is right and who is wrong.  In marriage, and in most of life, we all like to be right.  This presents problems in marriage because your spouse likes to be right too.  Really, it isn’t even a matter of who is Read more…